These past few
weeks have been trying, a crucible, and a Holy of Holies. The season continues
(though in a different “key”), and as it continues Vickie and I continue to
trust our Lord Jesus. We have a friend who was once in a small plane crash, I
remember him telling us that the adrenalin was such that he could see the propeller
turning in slow motion, he was tracking the rotation of the individual blades. Many
of us have had experiences when we’ve gone from black and white to Technicolor
(to borrow an image from the Wizard of Oz).
I have never
entered a hospital room knowing what I was going to say, not once. I have never
gone into a hospital room, or visited an ill person at home, even thinking what
I was going to say. I have, however, entered hospital rooms knowing the two
things I wanted to do; be the Presence of Jesus and pray with people. Jesus, of
course, was already in the room and I needed to pay attention to Him, to the
sick person, and to any others who might be in the room.
Over the years,
when being with people going through hardship, sickness, entering the portal of
death, enduring suffering, I have learned that I can confidently speak to them
of God’s love for them with every beat of His heart, and I can say to them, “Your
heavenly Father and dear Lord Jesus want to reveal themselves to you through
this, they want to show you how much they love you. I may not understand anything
else, but I know they desire to walk with you through this and for you to know
their Presence.”
If the person has
not yet met Jesus, only God’s love can change that. If the person does indeed
know Jesus, only God’s love can comfort them. For sure, this love must flow
through us as well, we must be the incarnation of the Message.
I am not called
to “fix things” in people, or to medicate their difficulties or participate in
deadening their senses. I am called to point them to Jesus, always to Jesus…and
so are you.
Now of course
you realize that we self-medicate all the time. We revert to “positive
thinking,” to “mindfulness,” to food, to media (television, streaming, social
media), to any number of activities that keep us away from our Good Shepherd
who wants to embrace us and carry us and draw us ever closer to Himself. Even
things labeled “Christian” can distract us from looking Jesus in the eye and
allowing Him to speak to us; let us not forget the lesson of Martha and Mary.
A passage that
has held deep meaning for Vickie and me over the years is 2 Timothy 1:12:
“For this reason
I also suffer these things, but I am not ashamed; for I know whom I have
believed and I am convinced that He is able to guard what I have entrusted to
Him until that day.”
Vickie and I
actually believe this, our lives are built on this, and in the midst of
uncertainty and fear and disorientation – Christ, as expressed in this verse,
is our assurance. As Fanny Crosby wrote, “Blessed assurance, Jesus is mine, O
what a foretaste of glory Divine!”
Yes, I was
frightened when I thought I was losing Vickie in my arms. But remember, I was
having three out loud conversations simultaneously; one with Vickie (trying to
get her to respond), one with the wonderful 911 dispatcher, and one with Jesus.
It is okay to be
frightened, it is okay to be tired, it is okay to be disoriented – because our
dear Lord Jesus is with us and He will never leave us, never, never, never. We
don’t need to fix things for ourselves or for one another; we do need to be
there for one another. We don’t need to understand “why,” hopefully we will know
His love and the love of others.
Let me put this
another way. I recently had a conversation with a neighbor who was telling me
about a difficult situation her family is facing. I asked her, “What do you
sense Jesus saying to you through this?”
She replied, “He
wants me to have more patience.”
As I pondered
her response, which is pretty much a stock answer we may have all used at one
time, it occurred to me that there may be something else for her to consider. Perhaps
Jesus wants her to look at Him, to see His patience, to see how patient He is
with her, to see His Presence in her life; so that she in turn can be
transformed into His image and be His Presence in the situation her family is
facing.
I will, the Lord
willing, share this thought with her the next time I see her.
Do we “know whom
we have believed”? If so, then we can be assured that He will keep us and we
can assure others that Jesus will keep them.
Jesus has been
with me during every hospital visit to care for others; yes, it has been
working without a net, but isn’t that the way we are to live in Him? Trusting Him,
always trusting Him, knowing that without Him we can do nothing, absolutely
nothing (John 15:5)?
We can trust
Jesus to teach us to be there for one another. We don’t need to give advice. We
don’t need to make things better. We just need to be there.
Another neighbor
once said to me, “Bob, you know a friend is someone who shows up, who just
shows up.”
Yes, I think
that is true. Jesus shows up, and we ought to show up…and for sure we are
thankful for those who show up for us.